A sister in Christ told me that her grandfather used to say, “the least said the easiest mended”. I suppose her grandfather was referring especially to times of speaking when angry. This is good advice when we are in a heated discussion or feeling moments of anger.
We know that when it comes to teaching the word of God we must not hold anything back. We are commanded to “declare…all the counsel of God” (Acts 20:27) and to do so in love (Eph. 4:15). This means we must, in love, tell individuals every thing God wants them to know as revealed in His will.
Then there are times that it is good to refrain from speaking lest we sin with our tongue. Solomon wrote, “In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise” (Proverbs 10:19). “There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, But the tongue of the wise promotes health” (Proverbs 12:18) “He who has a deceitful heart finds no good, And he who has a perverse tongue falls into evil (Proverbs 17:20). “Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things; See how great a forest a little fire kindles” (Js. 3:5)! “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21). “I said, “I will guard my ways, Lest I sin with my tongue; I will restrain my mouth with a muzzle, While the wicked are before me” (Ps. 39:1).
The tongue has the potential for good or for evil. Christians must know when and how to speak.
A careless word can kindle strife.
A cruel word can wreck a life.
A bitter word can hate instill.
A brutal word can smite and kill.
A gracious word can soothe the way.
A joyous word can light the day.
A timely word can lessen stress.
A loving word can heal and bless. (Author unknown)